Friday, November 18, 2005

CULTURAL POLICING

Well most of India would know this by now, ‘most’ never includes states like Bihar, Uttar Pradesh, and many more can be added. These states are a class apart and can never be included in anything except for scams. We hear people from different walks of life commenting about this – Sania Mirza, Narain Karthikeyan and even the recently crowned Miss Universe talks about this. Even Mrs. Suhasini Manirathnam commented about this and ultimately landed in trouble. I pray that the others don’t land in trouble.

By now most of you would have guessed what I have been trying to say. It’s what one can say as the most stupid thing to crop up – apparently it is the “Kushboo comment on pre - marital sex”. For those who don’t know there is a temple built in the name of the actress…sounds funny but my dear friends this is indeed true, an ardent fan of her built a temple for her when she was in her peak of career. So what has happened to the temple…as of now I don’t have any clue as to what happened to it.

The cause for all this hue and cry regarding Mrs. Kushboo is her statement to a magazine regarding pre – marital sex. Actually what she said was and is her opinion. For heaven sake we are living in a democratic country…remember the fundamental rights of a citizen of the country – “RIGHT TO SPEAK”. What has happened to this, have we forgotten it? It’s her voice of opinion, so why do we take it so seriously. To tell you something, there have so far been 9 cases against her and she is in conditional bail. The worst part is Mrs. Suhasini Manirathnam who supported her did have the piece of cake, 7 cases against her.

The media in the country is taking a different spectrum be it print or electronic. The electronic media makes even the smallest of the issues a big one and manifolds it to a much greater extent, there by increasing the misery of the people. Next the judicial system, isn’t our judicial system pro – active, or should I say over active. Why do they encourage cases of this sort? Can’t it just ignore cases of this kind when there are so many cases pending which require action and it wastes its time on petty issues like this? The result of all this, the print media has been able to increase its circulation by over utilizing the subject and the local media gives top priority to this in their prime time news. (I don’t have to tell you which one…?)

Why can’t we put a full stop to the whole issue and carry on with other works…? Definitely one is prone to irritation when he persistently gets to hear news of this sort. Are we not targeting women in this country – firstly it was Sania Mirza regarding her dress code, next is this. Let’s have a break, why don’t we just carry on with our work and stop poking our noses into issues which don’t concern us in any way.

Well I wonder what if a woman files a case saying that Mrs. Kushboo has in no way offended us – then what would the judicial system have in reply for it…

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi
It is a good attempt - go ahead - go on change it with your ideas , as change is the one which never changes...

Instead of "about me", you can give some innovative title..try

i will come again - this is only a preliminary ....
all the best

Naga

Anonymous said...

machan...no country is purely democratic...if u speak against democracy - that is undemocratic...but that itself goes against basic democratic rights(right of speech)

Kanishkaa said...

Good writeup..U nailed it.Talkng about the so called 'pending cases',i think they all just get sucked into a black hole and are never seen again.Pending?Not anymore.
I don't intend to offend anyone, but of late,the south Indian culture is getting so primitive that it makes me sick.banning dancing in night clubs all over Chennai and Bangalore(!) where it all began.The Sania's t-shirts etc.The culture cops need to get a life..seriously!

Anonymous said...

hey cous... me Darshan.. =)

recently was watching Sun TV news with dad and he was explaining me the situation....

in all honesty I just had a real good laugh..!

fun apart.., yeah.. ridiculous.. stupid.. idiotic.... but hey life would be boring otherwise..

Anonymous said...

its me aswini
u have written what i had in mind.
good effort.. keep writing man...

Anonymous said...

its high time to teach the media their limits. many more such reactions from all sections of the society is a must. good effort. can be more aggressive.
jaya chitti

Anonymous said...

I've blogged Kushboo's original comments. You can see them on the following URL

http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-Y2MTaSA0RLDVTunp3KQgKh0-?p=78
http://www.livejournal.com/users/e_vinayak/1959.html
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2005/11/kushboo-interview-from-india-today-sex.html


A free translation with no recourse follows. If there are other Tamils, you are welcome to provide alternate / better translations. This translation may also be blogged / posted with some credit to me... but with no copyrights.. :

========= start kushboo's comments with some notes from me ==========

*From Sep 28 2005 India Today*

"Kushboo : ..Chennai *was* behind Bangalore with regard to women expressing sexual matters ...."
(Note : I've used "matters" here as her Tamil word does not exactly translate to desires).

Kushboo : ".....Now women in Chennai are also crossing these mental taboos on sexual matters. We get to see a lot of women (girls? ) in Pubs and discos (at Chennai). (These days) Women can talk freely on matters regarding sex. Slowly the woman is opening her wings and has started flying out in this restricted society. Still, accidents to women like Stephany raises some questions about how healthy this trend is?. Sex education is very essential in schools. Even if sex education is not provided in schools, parents have to teach their children about sex....."

Kushboo : "...For me sex is not just a physical thing. Its mental too. I can't understand how women can change their boy friends every week..."
(Note : Kushboo says that she can't accept this habit of changing boy friends per week.... NOT that this does NOT happen !!. That means there are many girls who have weekly boyfriends and Kushboo who is aware of pubs and discos must have a good overview of this.
Note : Its quite possible that after a few years, meaning 52 x 4 = 208 boyfriends when these new age women get married, they would get rather tired of men and soon seek the 498A route :-()

Kushboo : "....If a girl is going strong with her boyfriend, she can go out with him after informing her parents..."
(Note : No issue of seeking permission here. I've carefully read the Tamil word / words. It just says inform. Not seek permission)

Kushboo : "...If a girl has a Strong relationship, the parents have to allow that...."
Note : all about relationships BEFORE marriage. Social acceptance of the same etc... and then comes the clincher)

Kushboo : "...Our society has to be liberated from thoughts like "a woman has to be a virgin at the time of marriage". No educated man would expect his wife to be a virgin. However, women have to safeguard themselves from pregnancy or other disease, while having pre - marital sex....."
Note : So the issues are just physiological and economic at the maximum. don't get pregnant before marriage and don't be left holding the baby !!. The issue is NOT about chastity..

Kushboo : "...I married the man I was in love with. Since we were sure about our relationships, we had sex before marriage. Its now six years since marriage. Since we have two children, our responsibilities have grown. Since the children sleep in the same room as we do we need to find other private times (/moments) for us. Still we have a happy married life. Married people should know how to satisfy their spouse's physical needs. There would be no problems, if desires are understood mutually. ..."
(Note : She has had pre marital sex. She says she married the same person. She was an actress BEFORE she was married.)

Kushboo : "...Some people increase gratification by using sex books, photos etc. One cannot say that is wrong. At the same time At the same time, one should understand the other's likes, dislikes and comforts, discomforts. Men who mistake women talking about sex should change their views. Mutual consent is essential for sex. ..."
(Note : Last para is some general whitewash .. The whole interview speaks tons about pre marital sex, sex between partners, safe sex and so on. At one point she cautions women *not* to get pregnant by Pre marital sex !!)


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